Money and Girls

Here’s my take on money and girls. It’s sort of inspired by Tyler’s Blueprint Decoded speech, but not really based upon it.

People have a tendency to attract others who think similarly. Similar people tend to congregate together and get along. Humans are designed to live and associate with people who are similar to them. It makes for a more harmonious society and reduces fighting.

Accordingly, money only matters as much as you think it matters. If a guy thinks money attracts girls, then he will find and attract girls who think the same way. The guy will only meet "money matters girls" which will in turn reinforce his belief that girls only want money. He’ll have a stronger belief that money attracts girls, which will attract more gold digging girls, and the cycle will build upon itself.

People also have a tendency to only see what supports their own beliefs. If something is incongruent with what they know, most people will simply ignore it or dismiss it as an anomaly. If a “money matters” guy meets a girl who is truly interested in him, not his money, he’ll push the girl away as being weird or not in touch with reality. He’ll only see what supports his ideas.

Unfortunately, our poor hypothetical man doesn’t actually have any money, but since all he knows and associates with are gold diggers, he’s better off playing WoW at home alone.

Conversely, guys who genuinely think money doesn’t matter will attract girls who are not after a guy with money. If a guy deep down believes that he can get any girl because he’s awesome--even though he’s broke as a post-- he will associate and attract girls who think the same way. He’ll attract open-minded girls who don’t need a man for his money, he’ll attract rich girls who have their own jobs or trust funds, and he’ll attract girls who need a man for things other than his wallet.

Project your own reality of the world and it will become true.