Pickup For Girls: The Rules

I just finished reading All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. “All The Rules” is a New York Times best seller about “the rules” a girl must follow to marry the man of her dreams; sounds like a female version of The Game to me.

What’s remarkable is not the rules themselves, but that most of the rules are quite similar to pickup: be busy, abundance mentality, have a life, abundance mentality, don’t be pathetic, abundance mentality, dress well, abundance mentality, be healthy, abundance mentality, be positive, abundance mentality, be someone people like to be around . . .you get the idea.

The only major difference is that a girl should not call a guy or make the first contact. Why? Because HE needs to feel a sense of challenge and accomplishment. If a girl is too easy, he’ll grow board of her and move on. In fact she shouldn’t even return his voice mails. Serious.

Without going into all the details of The Rules, I’m just going to give it my hearty recommendation. It may be a little dated, but the core ideas are excellent. I think even men should read it.

If I met a girl who followed The Rules, she would certainly drive me nuts—in a good way.

P.S. Now if a girl says “is that line from The Game?” Another response can be “Is that from The Rules?”